I Lam
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Post by I Lam on Dec 10, 2015 4:39:59 GMT
Well, "depressing" is how I would describe the relationship in a word. The pair obviously love each other, but the stress of sickness and the thought of death weigh heavily and cause them to lash out at one another, despite the very limited time they have left together. In a way though, their engagement in argument is a way for them to speak to and be near the other, at a time of uncertainty, fear, and loneliness. It's ironic, because they coexist in a mutually destructive relationship throughout much of the sickness, but only from the desire of spending more time together or giving the best possible care. It's sad that they only find the peace they needed all along after thoroughly wearing each other down. For me, it was a story about how deep their love runs, that even in the midst of all those difficult arguments, their feelings remained unwavering. It points out how sickness can affect a loved one, and that one should treasure what time they have left with them despite the difficulties of care, etc.
Question: What do you imagine the husband will do after she dies?
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Post by Cindy Xia on Dec 10, 2015 7:17:35 GMT
I imagine the husband to be in a depressive state for months. Because the relationship between the two is so strong that once she dies, he'd have a hard time accepting it. The husband could also have a hard time figuring out what he wants to do. His everyday life right now consists of him taking care of her and once she passes away, he may not have a purpose in life. I do think, however, he might try to find a nice place to put her bones so she could rest comfortably after her death since she was asking where her bones would be laid.
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Post by Kyra Benjamin on Dec 11, 2015 4:16:47 GMT
What he will do I think totally depends on what she wrote in that letter. However, even if she put something like 'don't dwell too long on me or be sad and move on with your life' I don't think he would. After all the funerary rites I think he'd try to get back to life and work but find his heart wasn't really in it. He'd probably continue to take walks on the beach or lay on the grass in the garden and bring in flowers she would have liked. Basically for a while he'll be unused to the lack of her presence and unconsciously try to compensate for that.
But maybe he'll go on for a while without reading her letter. In the same way he thought of never going back so she'd always be alive, maybe he'll never read the letter so it's like he never really said goodbye.
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